Forgiveness

Question 1

Who said, “to err is human; to forgive divine”?

Answer 1

Alexander Pope

Question 2

What is forgiveness?

Answer 2

It is a response to unfairness of resentment or anger toward an offender and the restoration of more positive feelings, thoughts, and behaviors toward that person.

Question 3

What does Matthew 18:21-22 in the Bible say? Exodus 34:6-7?

Answer 3

Matthew 18:21-22 says, “Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, ‘Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?’ Jesus answered, ‘I tell you, not seven times, but twenty-seven times.”

Exodus 34:6-7 says that God’s quality of forgiveness is five hundred fold that of His wrath.

Question 4

Who said, “The moment you forgive you have reclaimed your power from the mind”?

Answer 4

Philosopher Eckhart Tollee

Question 5

According to researchers, what happens to us physiologically when we don’t forgive?

Answer 5

Holding onto grudges has been shown to be associated with high blood pressure and lower back pain

Question 6

According to the authors, activating the ____ _____ ____ is the optimal state for healing the wounds of forgiveness.

Answer 6

Parasympathetic nervous system

Question 7

What kinds of activities can one do to achieve this optimal state?

Answer 7

Putting on soothing music, a walk in nature, personal prayer or meditation, t’ai chi, yoga, or running

Question 8

What does “third eye” refer to?

Answer 8

The spot between your two eyes; the center of enlightenment

Question 9

What is Ubuntu?

Answer 9

A quality that includes the essential human virtues; compassion and humanity

Question 10

What is the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation?

Answer 10

Forgiveness is letting go, personally, of resentment and the past. Reconciliation is mutual commitment to an improved ethical future. They are clearly connected because the definition of forgiveness usually includes the development of a more positive attitude toward the other.

Question 11

Worthington created the acronym REACH to describe forgiveness?

Answer 11

R: recall the hurt
E: empathize with the perpetrator 
A: give the altruistic gift of forgiveness
C: publicly commit to forgiveness
H: hold onto forgiveness

Question 12

What are the four D’s of reconciliation?

Answer 12

Decide whether to reconcile
Discuss reconciliation
Detoxify the relationship
Develop devotion to each other

Question 13

According to Worthington, what is the cornerstone of forgiveness and reconciliation?

Answer 13

Empathy