Are you one of the 40% How To Get Ex Boy Back of the world’s population who reports suffering from bouts of insomnia? I used to be, too. But what if I told you that I permanently cured my insomnia 10 years ago, that I did it without drugs, and that I have a simple secret that will cure your insomnia forever? Want to know my secret?
Learn to love your inability to sleep.
That’s right. Don’t just try to ignore it. Literally love your sleeplessness. Say to yourself “Thank you, brain, for giving me this much-needed quiet time to reflect. I’ve obviously got some more thinking I have to do today!” Then seriously reflect on your day. Trace every minute from when you woke up to when you went to bed, reflecting on who you talked to, what you accomplished, and what you learned. Practice your Spanish or your guitar skills in your head. Practice a mental conversation with someone you’ll be talking to tomorrow. Be really happy that your brain has given you this time to be lying awake and improve yourself.
Over time, as this feeling of happiness becomes more genuine, you’ll realize you’re falling asleep earlier as a by-product. But even if you don’t, your brain is still in better shape the next morning because of your peaceful reflection the previous night (rather than your stressful frustration at your inability to sleep). You are thus no longer suffering from insomnia!
Note that this will not work if you are just half-ass pretending to be happy you can’t sleep before that big presentation tomorrow. You have to seriously learn to be happy about it. Genuinely accept that you will be just as happy if you sleep only one hour tonight, because your extra quiet reflection time will compensate you for any potential physical tiredness you may feel tomorrow.
Of course, even with a great attitude, you will still have the occasional night of sleeplessness, as the normal stresses of life can require some time for you to sort out in your head at night. But if you truly love this sleeplessness then it is not “insomnia”. It’s just a few welcome nights of sleeplessness.
Some other natural tips that will help you sleep better, regardless of your attitude:
- Write down your persistent thoughts or your to-do list for tomorrow
- Turn off the lights 30 minutes before bed
- Don’t drink caffeine within 9 hours of bedtime
- Exercise during the day
- Get up and do some yoga moves
- Have sex (with yourself if necessary)
Feel free to add your own in the comments below. Happy bedtimes!